All photos in this post were taken today….
So, I’m guessing that ya’ll have already figured out that things aren’t exactly peachy in construction land. My radio silence across all social media platforms has resulted in many of you reaching out to make sure that we are alive.
And we are, but barely.
My husband says that I’m not allowed to get on the Internets and trash our contractor.
So, I won’t.
But I will say that I spent a good portion on Friday standing in our driveway at the new house and crying.
Real crying.
An Ugly Cry.
Our house is frustratingly incomplete.
There are many, many small construction tasks that are hanging in limbo, each dependent on another half finished project for completion. There are a million excuses, people to blame, people who refuse to shoulder the blame and endless words to “explain” the state of our home.
None of them matter to me.
What matters to me is that we had nowhere safe to take our baby. What matters to me is that we had no where to put our belongings when the movers arrived because flooring was only partially complete in multiple rooms. We were forced to leave many items out in the yard. What matters to me is that we’ve had to ask our friends to help us finish projects left incomplete by others, to let us stay in their homes, drink their wine and (at this very moment) use their washer and dryer because we have a very sick baby who has left us with zero clean sheets for the crib or our bed (and yes, we own a washer and dryer in our new house, it just hasn’t been appropriately installed).
I have no kitchen and no laundry room, no living room and no space to just be. One guest room is stacked floor to ceiling, wall to wall with boxes and furniture because it had finished floors. The baby’s bathroom has been only partially grouted for a week.
We had to board poor Macie through the end of the week because we don’t feel it’s safe for her to be in the house with all of the construction materials laying around.
Luckily, we only did a cosmetic update to our master bath so we have a working toilet, sinks and a bathtub. Justin and I worked our asses off over the weekend and made a safe nursery for the baby and bedroom for ourselves. We have never been so grateful to be close to family – Justin’s parents kept the baby all weekend and he was in hog heaven with all of his aunts, uncles and cousins at Camp Grandma.
In the midst of all of this, I am so very overwhelmed, but also so incredibly grateful.
Justin has been forced to take the past two days off from work to help finish tasks and manage the project. At least I’ve had my best friend around.
We launched our 4th of July Capsule Collection yesterday and I was able to work from my phone, managing the inventory as it flew off of our shelves. Meg and I are still in shock when we sell pieces, let alone sell out! and p.s. thank you for shopping small and letting us do what we love to do.
I genuinely hate asking for favors and help, but our friends have been bending over backwards to be there for us – so many texts begging to let them take the baby somewhere fun to play, offers to help clean, bring dinner and wine and, of course, letting us stay in their home with zero notice.
We were able to sneak away to a friend’s 30th birthday on Saturday and I looked around at my girlfriends pitching in to clean up the kitchen and gossiping about nothing and just had to stop them to tell them how grateful I am that we are home. Home with them.
Soon we’ll be able to really feel like the new house is home and until then, we’ll just power through.
Ugh, that sucks! Hopefully things start coming together quickly!
Oh, I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now! I can imagine how difficult it is. Your kitchen looks beautiful and soon it will be all over! So glad you have the support of friends and family to help you!! <3
I so wish I could help!
It will be worth it, I'm sure! I feel your pain, we are a year in and still not sorted but we have house builders to contend with, hopefully your renovators will be out of your hair and house as soon as possible – thinking of you lovely xx
Hang in there! Hopefully the craziness is almost over. And feel free to vent to us readers any time 🙂
ugh. hang in there… hopefully it'll be done in a few days and you and the fam will be able to enjoy your new house. AND not move for years… xo jillian – cornflake dreams
Oh girl, I am so sorry! I'll be praying for a miracle for you in home construction land and for your sanity as well!
Oh my lands, what a nightmare! I would be freaking out! Despite a good cry, sounds like you're handling it well and making it work. Hang in there. It'll all be worth it in the end.
Oh mama, I'm so sorry the move in was so bananas. I'm glad you have people nearby to stay with, but y'all are always welcome here if you need to get away! Moving with a baby is hard enough but you shouldn't have to deal with all of this! I hope they finish everything asap for y'all, it looks beautiful so far!
Hang in there girly…I can't even imagine….But I know for sure many a contractor and workers would be seeing me on one hell of an emotional roller coaster ride. Make sure you have plenty of wine handy and cannot wait to see the final result cause I know it is going to look amazing and much, much deserved!!
Hey! Hey! I mentioned, on IG, prior to the start of your project that my husband and I had our house reno-ed while living in it and that I love, love it and it was so worth it!
While my baby was 2 and a half and not as young as your's, and while our lead contract was a female and cleaned up after her crew everyday, they stayed on schedule and it wasn't the ordeal that you are currently in the midst of, it was a blessing that we were able to afford to have a renovation done.
I super know the feeling of being over something and from reading this particular post, you seem past being over this, but just remember, it's a temporary phase, once your house is complete, it's over, you don't have to see these people anymore and you get your amazing space all to yourself, and finally, how lucky you are to be able to afford a house to live in and how lucky you are to afford to have it renovated (perspective)!
Keep your chin up and your glass half-full, pretty lady! You got this!
I've been wondering how things were going. I'm so sorry to hear it's been quite a nightmare!! You're so lucky to have family and friends close to hell out, I'm sure it's hard accepting it but you know you'd do the same for any of them, just remember that! 🙂
We are so grateful for you too and are just glad that we get to spend all this extra time with y'all! We are so glad y'all are "home" too! love.
So sorry you are having to go through this. We just finished building our house and husband did literally almost all the work except the plumbing and HVAC, it was such a blessing not to have to rely on contractors because all I've ever heard are stories like yours and it's obviously really frustrating!! Best of luck! Keep your spirits up, there is an end in sight even if it seems like a long way off!
Awww, I'm so sorry, Stephanie! Having an incomplete house as a person is awful but having it with a child has to be a nightmare. That's terrible your contractor isn't working well for you, prayers everything gets back on schedule and you can start feeling like you are home. You've got this!
Oh girl. When I didn't have any sweet pics of baby Gray show up on my insta feed this weekend I figured the shit hit the fan. It sounds like you are taking everything in stride and handling the situation as best you can, all while keeping your family's safety of the utmost priority. And can i just say that island and the lights above it? SWOON! I hope this week gets everything sorted out.
I figured based on the lack of posts that things were a little cray in your world…I'm sorry hear about all the chaos and I'm sorry your contractor sounds like they're making things worse. But if anyone can get through it, I know you and Justin can, after all, not everyone could move to Maine right after their wedding 😉 even though things are crappy now, when you're finally settled in it will all be worth it!!
Praying for you and your fam, pretty mama. We're in the construction business and unfortunately this is no surprise to me (especially after building our own house last year!) It is so damn frustrating and then add in everything you guys have to deal with like being forced to move in with an incomplete house with a baby. I feel for ya gal, but I know you will power through it!
You are one strong Mama! You are almost to the end of this rough road, and will have a beautiful home when it's all said and done. Chin up! Looking forward to more updates and some pictures when the house is complete! 🙂
Hang in there Steph! For what it's worth, I see a really beautiful home hidden under all those boxes and half-finished products. You're almost there!